Now I am 100% for self-love. Doing what is best for me, considering the moment plus short and long term happiness and rewards.

But sometimes, I need to call to something bigger when my motivation wears thin. Maybe cerebrally I know I have to do something, but the natural pull of fear, distraction or laziness leaves me a little flat and finding the next episode of 30 Rock too tempting. That’s ok, not just because Tina Fey is a genius, but because procrastination and fluctuating levels of motivation and commitment are bound to happen, be they incremental or seemingly monumental.

So what do I call to? If I catch myself putting off writing the last verse of a song, I say…

What if this song could change someone’s life? What if this was played at a party and lifted everyone’s spirits? What if this song is exactly what the world needs now?

If I feel too tired for conversation with a stranger (yet know it will be fun), I say to myself…

What if we were meant to meet? What if I can help this person with their biggest problem or burning goal? Who am I to be lazy, when we could be soul-mates?

It is ok to step out of the ‘me, me’ attitude and begin wondering how the right choice, won’t just be right for you, but the best possible decision to help the world.

We know that life can never be truly satisfying without caring for and adding value to our fellow man. Our families make us feel deeply fulfilled, and we are far happier at work when we know we are making a positive impact on other people’s lives. There is a beautiful parallel between what your heart truly desires and what will make the world a better place. Inspire, give and love.

Warning: I want to draw a distinction here to make sure this lesson is wholly positive. NEVER justify something that makes you absolutely miserable for other people’s sake, because how can you give your best if you hate your circumstance or the action your considering will do you more harm than good. For example, you wouldn’t stay in an abusive relationship ‘for the sake of the kids’ or quit the job you love and find a ‘real job’ just to make your parents more comfortable.

 You will KNOW the right choice. Doing it for someone else or the big picture will simply add more fuel to the fire and make you follow the little (sometimes less exciting) steps along the way. You move towards your path because others will reap the benefits of your amazing journey.

Keep acting with self-love and notice how being your best self naturally makes the world a better place.

What is it you know you are meant to do but avoid sometimes? How can you reframe this to make it more about others than just you in that moment?

Share with me here in the comments!

As always, I am sending you loads of love and hoping that this small action of writing this post helps those big-hearted readers stay on their goals and fight for their happiness and the needs of the world.

Love Becky,

 

Hello beautiful souls!

Today is all about intention setting and its role in building confidence. By asking ourselves the right questions, we can easily feel confident and energised about ourselves and the future. The advice today is in the same vein as writing down ‘wins’, although I daresay, it is even more powerful.

Intention setting is the process of writing down an affirmation of; a) what you want to get out of yourself, b) what you would like to prove or achieve today or long-term or c) a short or long term goal. There is so much to be said about intention setting and the best way to do it. I’ll show you what works for me, through this story about one of my not-so-average days as a school teacher.

Last year and in 2012, in preparation for any significant karate tournament I would wake up and write on both sides of a piece of yellow cardboard. On one side it said, ‘I am the champion’. On the other, it said ‘Why am I a champion?’. I would fold the cardboard and put it in my pocket and head off to work. With the powerful question, ‘Why am I a champion?’ at either the back or the forefront of my mind, my behaviour changed to champion-like behaviour. I would subconsciously act in accordance with this question and sometimes would reshape the look of my whole day to align with this question. You see, I really wanted an answer to this question.

Here are some of the changes I made when this was my intention:
 

• I prepared better for classes and was present and thorough
• I ran up any stairs like a ninja (even if it was frowned upon by staff members)
• I practised karate in my breaks.
• I told everyone I was going to win the competition.
• I ate raw capsicum (and struggled with raw broccoli) as a snack.
• I visualised success and performing like a champion.
• I changed my passwords to ‘world champion’.

At the end of the day, when I pulled out my card from my pocket, I would have legitimate answers to that question. I am a champion because; I eat raw vegies, I run where others would walk, I practise when other people rest, etc. In terms of confidence building, it was abundantly clear that I was making decisions that would give me the greatest chance for success. By the way, the above list is just what I did while I was working as a school teacher! The intention obviously had immense power when I was in the karate dojo (training hall) or at the gym.

When we ask ourselves the right questions through intention setting we notice was is already there and make better decisions while letting the universe add extra pep to the intention. (More to come on how things lined up when I set this intention on a daily basis.)

If you haven’t done intention setting this way before, then this is your official action step for the week. Intention setting makes every day happier and growth-oriented. Share your intention with me here. It should be one sentence only.

Advanced tip for people who already do intention setting: My personal struggle with intention setting is that when I write down my affirmation and powerful question I 100% know it will come true. This can be scary, and sometimes I catch myself avoiding the most powerful question I could ask because it would dramatically change my life. To get over this, I list everything that could be bad about getting this goal and affirm ‘Even though I will have to (move houses, lose friends, be a role model) I give myself full permission to (be happy, be a millionaire, tour)…’ One of my favourite parts of coaching is helping high performing people break through to the next level of success by identifying what is holding them back and then healing and intention setting anyway.

Tell me in the comments, which of the four ways to build confidence are you finding the most helpful? When are you making time for this? What could be holding you back?

Have a fantastic week!

Love Becky

PS. Many of my gorgeous clients are half-way through the 6-month Be Happy Mid-Year Boost Program and already getting amazing results in both business and personal success. If you want to work with me next year for six or twelve months, tell me a bit about you and what you are looking to achieve next year. Exciting times!

Research found that in a game of scissors, paper, rock, people are more likely to try to ‘draw’ rather than win the game when they can see their opponent’s next move. They still prefer to imitate, even if they get penalised for drawing. Mother’s imitate their babies’ facial expressions. We pick up mannerisms from our parents and those we look up to and spend time with. Even monkeys prefer the company of those who imitate them. So time to capitalise on this!

Monkey see, monkey do

The desire to imitate is so innate in people. Imitation is a subconscious sign of flattery, and something we are far more likely to do in our late teens when developing our identity. But what about after that? Or when we want to change our persona to be more confident?

Imitation can make the transition from ‘fake’ confidence to genuine confidence much simpler.

So how do we safely imitate people, without feeling like a total copycat? Well, you will never be exactly like someone else, but in different contexts, you can put on your character hat to give you more confidence and the consequent success of feeling good.

Choose a person who does similar work to you who you really admire for their apparent confidence. Imagine stepping into their body and visualise yourself moving and speaking like them. Tell me now, who do you look up to in terms of their confidence? Who would you imitate to give you a confident ‘edge’ at work? Or, perhaps you have noticed that you are imitating someone right now. Why do you think you have picked up some of their traits. Is it working for you?

Confidence can be about how you carry yourself. Your posture or the way you make yourself occupy more space with your stance and gestures. Men and women put their hands on their hips to have more of a presence. We puff our chests out or drape ourselves across furniture. We use bigger and more dynamic hand movements to validate ourselves as 'alpha-worthy'.

Who do you know who carries themselves well, be it in a professional space, a sporting activity or when with a person they find attractive. Notice the nuances of their communication and make it a game to become that person in your next significant or insignificant interaction. How do people react to you? How do you feel about yourself?

Rehearse putting on the various imitation caps. As part of your meditation or daydreaming, watch yourself in a montage becoming different people and enjoying their (perceived) level of confidence. Then replay that montage seeing the world from your own eyes.

Experiment with this new way to 'fake it til you make it' (see last week's post) and comment with your biggest insights after playing with this.

And as with all games of imitation, it is ok to take a part of a person you admire and make their mannerisms/demeanor your own. Chances are, they picked up their behaviour from someone they previous deemed worthy of imitation.

By the way, how do you feel when people imitate you? Share!

Now, let’s recap our current strategies for building confidence:

1)    List your daily wins.

2)    Dip your toe into it. Act out your dream role and notice how you are not as far away as you think from living that dream.

3)   Imitate the great.

Let me know how this is working for you and which tip seems most effective in your own life.

xxx

Love Bec

A colleague of mine condemned my best friend and I for ridiculously playing ‘dress ups’ when we record our music and make videos. He doesn’t understand why we play full out in our lives and become what it is we most desire. He doesn’t understand the ‘fake it til you make it’ is more than just a way to build confidence, but a way to make better decisions. After all, how do you know if you want something unless you are fully immersed in it? It is only by acting out the life we want that we gain better clarity about whether we are doing what we are meant to do.

When we emulate greatness, we close the gap between the lifestyle we have and the lifestyle we want. Between the people we ‘are’ versus who we want to be. This is powerful, because we can demystify what it means to be great. Often, it is not about who we are but how we act.

In acting out greatness we start to notice that we are closer to our goals than we realise. We are capable because we take risks. We are living fuller lives because we dare to play out our ideal life, even in moments, to remind us that our dreams are possible.

So building confidence…

Act out the role you want to play in life.

Until it feels like you.

Until you notice the power you have to be incredible.

This is how I took the leap into being a singer-songwriter.

To be honest, apart from one performance in high school, I hadn’t sung in public for over 18 years. I recall a time in primary school where I wrote a concert about ‘Space’ and sung it with my friends. It has been a long time since then and I have only just decided to be the singer-songwriter of my childhood dreams. It has involved taking bold action, considering my lack of training. But I plough ahead by doing things like sharing my songs, spending (perhaps too much) cash on recording singles, releasing live videos and recording professional ones. It has taught me that the glamour is an illusion but the art is real. That I care more about making music than making people like me. That when I am not creating I feel like a limb has been cut off. And that I would do all this for fun. And in terms of confidence I know that I am safe to take risks.

On the other hand it is clear that I have heaps of work to do. That I want to almost entirely avoid the process of touring and be extremely selective about my live performances. And that I would be absolutely happy entertaining people from a screen. Doesn’t sound like anything like being part of the music industry, but at least I have learnt what it is I want through practical experience.

If there is a dream you want to dabble in, go ahead. To be significant, you do need to go all out, but JUST to get your head clear about the life you want to lead, spend some time acting as though it already is your life. See how it feels. Is it a good fit? How would you lead this life on your own terms?

What could you do to see what life could look and feel like if you taste-tested that dream? For my talented fiancé, he started learning photography for fun and offered to take pictures of my brother’s wedding for free. Apart from producing some amazing first time work, he understood how he’d like to run future shoots, how much he did enjoy wedding photography and that he deserved to get paid for it. He also did a baby photo shoot and as cute as the images turned out, he knew it was not the direction he wanted to take with his professional photography.

Pretty great for just 'taste-testing' wedding photography. This is a shot from Daniel's first wedding shoot.

A couple of days of taste-testing does lead to greater clarity about what you want. Not sure how to taste-test what you want? Ask me.

The next best thing to help you build confidence in yourself about your dream is to visualise yourself immersed in that life. Notice where you are happy and thriving. Identify the struggles and challenges and work out if it is all worth it. And know that if you can see it, it is absolutely possible.

What will you be dabbling in to see how it takes your fancy? Where will you act like a superstar and begin noticing that you are not as far away from your goals as you may think?

Tell me in the comments below.

Have a beautiful week!

Xxx

Becky

Ways to Build Confidence: Part One

After a rather amazing weekend of working far less than usual, I am feeling incredibly refreshed and acutely aware of how tiny moments can drastically alter our mood. More important than the moments themselves is what we say about them. Often we frame these moments as being few and far between, or something we don't deserve to have.

'I know I should be doing something important right now.'

'If only I could have this much time every week.'

'Soon, chaos will come again' (Othello nerd reference)

Even I catch myself wanting to justify my free time, rather than just having it and enjoying it.

'Oh, it made me so much more creative. Look, I wrote a song!'

But this email is really about the beginning of my series, How To Build Confidence. And in the vein of helping us control our mindspeak, the first way to build confidence is to keep a record of all your wins. Big and small. By recording the wins that occur on a regular basis, we condition ourselves to think of ourselves as winners. And this builds confidence to take on the new, live bravely and feel deserving of our piece of glory.

When faced with a challenge, it is easy to get into the habit of worry and forget all the times we have had success and endured tougher times.

Every single day we have little wins or moments we show courage. Often without a second thought.

We want to bring these moments to our consciousness so that we actively remember and note how often we prove to ourselves that we CAN.

Try this for an exercise.

Keep a piece of paper or pocket diary with you at all times. Whenever you have a little win, jot it down and review the list at the end of the day. When there is a big win, highlight it and bookmark or stick it on the fridge for quick reference when you feel like the impossible needs to be done.

When you're stuck on 'wins' you can write down what you have 'survived'. The framing of this list may not be as exciting, but just as empowering. That means that if you have a shit day you can at least say you got through it and learnt something.

In case you aren't sure about what constitutes a triumph, I interviewed some darling teenagers about what they would consider little wins in their day. All of these are just perfect for not only building confidence, but maintaining positivity. Here are some mini victories that made their list:

'...waking up with the alarm and having energy to get out of bed!'

'...driving a manual car for the first time.'

'...when my girlfriend talks about our future together. She's the first girl I've felt this way about.'

'...completing a task that I thought was too hard.'

'...getting a fresh haircut...'

'...getting a good tackle.'

'…a good netball intercept.'

'...talking at assembly.'

'...becoming vice captain.'

'...paying it forward.'

And most of the rest revolved around food:

• 'Lunch time.'

• '...seeing mum after school (sounds sweet) cos she makes me dinner.'

• '…having left over food in my bag that I find at the end of the day.'

• '...making mum and dad happy by cooking dinner.'

• '...when I know I'm having a good dinner.'

And darn good luck, like there being no traffic on the roads or finding 10 cents on the ground that's landed on heads.

A young man said that 'witnessing common courtesies' was like seeing a little win. I cracked up laughing because I had just stopped him playing 'the penis game' (a game where you see who can say 'penis' the loudest). This is why every day is a joy!

So what little or big wins have you had in the past? What wins did you have today? What reminds you that you should have confidence to go for your dreams and live every day with courage and faith? Share them in the comments!

Stay tuned for How to Build Confidence Part Two!

Let me know in the comments below how this win-listing activity boosts your confidence this week.

Lots of love,

Becky

and the 'front' that gets you through...

I've just returned from a weekend away shooting a music video. You'll probably see some of the glamour shots around the place, and being on the 'model' end of those shots, I can tell you now that nothing really feels as glamorous as it looks. It got me thinking about what goes on behind the scenes in our own lives that makes it seem like we have it together when we are in public or on show.

Some people need to have a good cry once a week.
Others are glued to a screen in all their 'spare time', learning, researching and perfecting their craft.
Maybe, like me, you need to binge on a good television series to keep you sane.

And deeper than this, we all need our behind the scenes thoughts to be in check so we can show up in the world the way we need. When people seem to 'come out of nowhere', be amazing in their work or so confident, it is their behind the scenes mindset AND practices that make all the difference. This is me now. Writing a blog and then working on student reports in bed at only 8pm.

As you can see, that glamour is gone! Hahaha! I get real comfy when in work mode because I never want work to feel exhausting, even when Iove it. My calendar at the moment is also incredibly hectic so I can fit in music recording and shoots. I've made some big sacrifices so I could live out the passion that would be 'easy'to neglect for fear of failure. In a race of thoughts, my mind always settles of on one of utter self-belief and faith that things will turn out as they should. And that I am safe to take risks. But I have trained myself to think this way.

Sadly, when we see success, we can jump to poor conclusions, assuming that some people have it easy or are simply perfect all the time. We all have our 'stuff' and our coping mechanisms and key practices that get us through and make us who we are.

So what do you do to show up in the world as a strong and capable person? What front do you put on to be a professional or inspire others? What does your life look like 'behind the scenes'. Share the good bad and the funny in the comments below. Because goodness knows it is nice to hear that other people need to curl into the foetal position at the end of a long day!

Want your behind the scenes to look better? Work with me to change that default mindset and 'self talk' that could be holding you back from being the happiest you! Our 6 month program is well under-way (oh some amazing stuff unfolding for those gorgeous people!) but you can still get signature coaching from me via Skype on a monthly or fortnightly basis.

All my love,
Becky
xx

Just because I get asked about it so often, I thought I would share the process I went through to win my first karate world title with GKR. I didn't want to post this for a long time because I thought it might be interpreted as 'braggy'. But it's the kind of real stuff that people need to hear, especially if they feel 'ordinary' as I did.

Based SOLELY on my experience, this is how to win a karate kata championship. The lessons you'll read at the end apply to any big goal you decide you want to kick.

So here goes...

• Feel like absolute crap. See other people succeed and don't do anything about it. Cry and have mini hissy fits asking some higher power why you haven't won tournaments yet. (Um, probably because you haven't entered, dummy!) And feel conflicted by the buzzing feeling in your tummy that tells you that you absolutely could do this.
• Make an empty promise that this year is going to be different. You will take your karate success to a new level.
• Keep working your butt off at training. Oh, but don't stay back practising after class in case people think you are 'showing off'.
• Have another cry and make more excuses. 'I have no time.' 'I'm not cool enough to do cool things like win stuff!'
• Hate your whining and decide to do something about it for real this time.
• Talk to your peeps and make a pact that you'll go where the champions hang out- National Squad. Actually join and then almost spew with nerves before class. And sometimes cry because you 'don't belong'. (Everyone here is soooooo much better than you!)
• Stick the words 'National Champion (insert your name)' anywhere you will see. On the car mirror, on your vision board, in the bathroom.
• Play the game. Go in tournaments. Win. Get obsessed with winning.
• Write daily intentions asking 'Why am I am champion?' Start noticing the little victories you have every day. Feel like a bad-ass.
• Ask everyone for feedback. Take feedback from anyone. Make people watch you and let a nine year old tell you your stance is too wide. And then fix your stance (if it's true).
• Practise like you are expected to win and that your job is to inspire others.
• Rehearse the moment you win. Feel the joy. Hear your name called.
• Tell everyone you speak to that you are going to win a championship. Elegantly work it in to conversations with colleagues accusing you of 'not eating properly' (because you are snacking on raw capsicum to be more like your sensei who rocks an eight pack).
• Buy a couple of pretty gis (karate uniforms) to have an unfair beauty advantage. (too big but it makes a nice swooshing sound).
• Tear shoulder at grading (subconsciously believing that champions all have an injury or setback to make the win more inspiring), but get through it, cementing in that you can achieve anything when you put your mind to it.
• Win a National Championship.
• Rinse and repeat process (with less crying this time, but equal amounts of feeling awkward).
• Train with the best sensei, including shihan. Commit to learning and developing.
• Relax into the fact that this will happen. Trust the process. Stay obsessed.
• Make sure that when you fill up your tank of petrol the final number ends with 8.83, because your goal is to get a score of 8.8 from 3 judges.
• Do some mental clearing work. Acknowledge and release the reasons I may not want to win and clear my mind so that I don't stand in my own way. 
• Enter World Cup.
• First day of World Cup. Teams. Do something stupid like drop a metal bottle on your toe and go to hospital to get it drained. Then deal with the humiliation of telling people that story. (Only redeemed by the fact you won your bouts in pain!)
• Watch things unfold perfectly for you.
• Win the World Cup.
• (A smidgen of guilt for competitors who you beat.)

And then...

• Feel normal.

You were a champion before this moment.

• Finally feel ecstatic seeing team mates win. Success always feels better when others are celebrating with you.

Nothing glamorous about that story, but it doesn't make that big goal any less worthwhile. Achieving something that once seemed unfathomable is the best lesson I could give myself. I know now that when there is something I want, I need:

1. A bit of faith that I can nurture.
2. Social support. I tell people what I'm going for so I can be accountable and supported. Get around the people who can help me.
3. Hard work. Heaps of practise.
4. Constant visualisation and obsessive thoughts of winning.
5. Intention setting.
6. Mental clearing work.
7. Saying yes to me, and making bold decisions.
8. Feeling peaceful in the belief that all will turn out fine.

Now to you.

What do you have to do to show yourself that anything is possible. What is the next big goal? Where are you almost feeling physical pain because you desire something so intensely? And what is stopping you from going for it?

Leave a comment to share your big goals, fears and get some support for that next big step!

When I learnt how to make better decisions, I ended up in Costa Rica, meeting my tribe and then headed to New York and New Zealand (not to mention a whole day coincidental stop over in Hawaii), even though when I booked the event I had no money for a return flight! The universe looked after me when I listened to my heart.

Do you feel like you have a significant decision to make?

One that seems so big, that it is terrifying, perhaps paralysing?

How do you know if you are making the best choice for you?

How do you know if you should act on an idea?

Before making the decision, decide whether saying yes to a decision will make you;

a) the best version of you...?

OR

b) a smaller, suppressed version of you...?

Will it make you heart

a) more open and loving of others and yourself...?

OR

b) more closed and negative...?

Life and business guru Marie Forleo talks about feeling expansive versus feeling contracted. When you want to do something scary, but know it will make you a bigger and better version of you, then you have to do it. When you feel constricted, contracted or like retreating into your self or as though you will be smaller if you go ahead with this action, then it is normally not right for you.

Consider where you are in your life right now.

Are you able to be your true self in this position?

Do you feel small, unworthy or like your gifts are not able to shine?

Sometimes our fear of what we are leaving behind stops us from moving forward. We are willing to put up with pain, loneliness and a lack of fulfilment just to hold onto memories and experiences that can be replicated or cherished as moments of the past that will never be forgotten.

If you decide to go ahead with an decision that you know is right for you (despite the fact you may be terrified), it is through actions, little and big that you will be empowered to move beyond feelings of fear.

When I first got engaged, I felt fear immediately. I temporarily felt a sense of 'single life' (one I had not experienced for 7 years!) slip away and I forgot the overwhelming feeling of love and gratitude that was just beneath the surface. It was through taking little steps towards the wedding that the fear began to slip away and that I became more centred remembering how wonderful it would be to spend my life (or as long as I desire) with my amazing man.

I wrote this song about those actions that move us forward, however the title represents the little fear and nostalgia of the past that we can acknowledge and then move beyond- 'Something Blue'.

If you haven't heard this one yet, click here and enjoy the catchiness. You are now one of the only people to know the true meaning of the song!

So tell me now, where are you suffering for fear of letting go of the past?

What big decision are you faced with at the moment?

When you think about going ahead with a decision, do you feel like it will lead you to be the best version of you?

And, the big question.

What is stopping you from taking action, right now?!

Love Becky

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Last year, my band and I went our separate ways. The lead vocalist started up her own band and became a recording artist and performer under the name Kite. She is writing beautiful songs and singing and performing like no-one else I've seen! (That's how a 'break-up' leads to bigger and better things!)

Well, a few months ago, Kite asked me if she could 'have' a song I had written called Wolf. I'm pretty sure I responded over-enthusiastically with something like 'Of course!' or 'Oh my god, yes!'.

But there was a part of me that was like...

Fuck! That's my favourite song!

Nonetheless, you can now see Kite performing it amazingly! I have moved on from those possessive feelings, but it took some work and self-discovery.

Trying to hold onto the essence of the melody, I wrote part two to Wolf.

And it was therapeutic.

You see, Wolf is a very grim song about submitting to a man in power and not making an effort to acknowledge personal choice in relationships. I've grown up a lot since then, and know that when attraction or love is mutual, both parties are capable of getting hurt. I know I am responsible for every choice I make- good or bad.

You can see the lyrics of the original Wolf here and check out the video and lyrics to Revenge of the Wolf below. Warning: it does contain some very feminist overtones, but perhaps one day there will be a third part- more balanced and forgiving.

The trouble is that as human beings who innately tell and connect with stories, we risk holding onto tales about our past that do not serve us. We tell ourselves that we were 'victimised as a child' but choose not to recognise how we have evolved since then or how our fear of judgment made us ostracise ourselves further. It repeating this story to ourselves and to others, we reinforce the negative feelings associated with the memory or belief and position ourselves to attract more of the same story into our lives.

Hit reply or comment to share with me a story that you tell yourself (either negative or positive). If it doesn't serve you and you realise it is disempowering, tell me how you will rewrite the story to make it work in your favour.

You can also listen to bonus materials in Lecture 32 of my online course.

Happy writing!

Hello Lovely!

This weekend I had to have a massive brain dump. Another headache snuck up and I had to ask 'Why the f*** is this happening?'.So I did the best thing I could possible do. I wrote down absolutely every niggling thing that was annoying me about my life. It seems like a pretty negatively loaded exercise, but the first step of overcoming any challenge is acknowledgement. 

Here were a few things on the list (of about 30):

• Feeling terrible that I'm not speaking to an old friend over a misunderstanding.
• Not having gone to the dentist for too long to say!
• Being prematurely sad about not seeing enough of Milo, my best friends dog.
• My long interlude from karate.
• A massive obligation that I no longer wish to have.
• Putting 'work' over traditional 'being in my 20s fun'...

The biggest theme that kept arising in my points was not being true to myself or completely honest with other people. Allowing others to make me feel awkward.

So, my very first steps were to fight awkwardness with awkwardness.
Had 3 very open and honest conversations with three men (a family member, a friend and my fiancé), all about completely different and equally important issues that had been causing fleeting sadness, subconscious worry and making me implode.

What absolute relief and a new wave of energy I felt just by being honest and not letting things fester. The assumptions I was making were, as always, a matter of opinion and the people who care about me only want to see me happy. However, there was no escaping the awkward conversation that comes with the territory of mending relationships.

If you haven't heard it yet, listen to this short mp3 on speaking your truth.
Then hit reply and tell me now, what awkward conversation are you putting off?
When are you going to have it?

Once you reply I will give you 3 killer tips for these conversations so they go as smoothly as possible.

Lots of love,
Becky

PS. Here is a success sheet to help you with speaking your truth.